Database Login Providing Support & Education To Those Who Grieve

Resources For Grief Blog

Welcome to this online journal for caregivers to the dying or bereaved—important and challenging work, for sure! My goal is to support you by providing inspirational thoughts, pertinent resources, and suggestions for self-care. With appreciation for all you do!

- Rebecca Hauder

(Be sure to sign up here to receive a monthly self-care tip by email. We don't sell or give our email list to anyone and you can unsubscribe at anytime.)

Be Where You Are

June 21, 2016

                              "As you walk and eat and travel, be where you are.  Otherwise you will miss most of your life." ~ Buddha

When news of the Orlando shootings came across my computer screen, my thoughts raced--to the injured, to the families of those who died, to how this can be happening again, to what the future will be like for my kids and grandkids. My thoughts, in fact, distracted me for much of the day. I didn't notice the other patrons at Mountain Java, the tip jar waiting for my pocket change, or the smell and taste of the mocha just prepared. I was unaware and unmindful, thus missing a big chunk of my day!

In contrast, mindfulness is paying careful attention to the present moment, including sights, sounds, tastes, smells, and even bodily sensations. Being mindful, whether I'm walking, eating, driving, chopping vegetables, or caring for others, prevents runaway thoughts of the past and worries about the future. But staying in the moment takes alot of effort as my thoughts have had a lifetime of free rein!

I offer this mindfulness exercise to practice throughout the day: With eyes open orclosed, take a moment to focus attention only on your breathing, trying not to changeor modify it. When your mind wanders--and it always does--gently, without self-judgment, return attention to your breathing. If you are experiencing sadness, grief, anger, or another difficult emotion, gently bring it to your attention, and notice where
you are carrying the feeling in your body. Then, place your hand on that part of your body in a spirit of compassion. Do this for a minute or two and see what happens.

Warm Regards,

Rebecca Hauder

Share This Post:

<< Back to Blog Articles